Overcoming Guilt In Work

For those people who have jobs which pay well but do nothing to feed their spirit, how do you go about counseling them? It is indeed a difficult task for a person to maintain a means of living just for the purposes of sustaining a family.

Some people might have a high-paying sales job and yet hate the job with all of her might. This particular situation happens because they simply do not like what they are doing. It is possible that some people might hesitate or pass up an opportunity just because of the feeling of guilt. Thoughts such as, "How in the world could I even think about taking a job like that?" when you are thinking of making a career change.

Other things that might stop one from pursuing a career that he or she loves are thoughts such as, "Everybody says that I have a great job and that I shouldn’t be thinking of getting a lower-paying job. Plus, how could my family get by with less money?"

Because of guilty thoughts like these, potential careers are put on hold. It is the thought of being too selfish that gets people into thinking that they shouldn’t be considering anything that puts their desires before the desires of the important people in their lives such as children. There may be other things that might spur you to adopt this type of thinking such as "How dare I go back to work when I have kids at home?" This is most common when the person has been taking care of children for a long time now as a single parent or a housewife.

Another type of thinking that affects people is the "I’m not good enough" type of thinking. This is one of the types of thinking that overcomes someone when he or she is passed up for a promotion spot or if you were laid off by your company. Because of the different types of emotions and thoughts that are consuming a person, it would be natural for the person in fault to go into an "It’s my fault" mode when mulling things over.

So how do you overcome these thoughts? You think about a lot of things and follow some of the tips that have been indicated here to be able to properly assess if those thoughts are false or valid ones. One of the first things that you can do is to honestly ask yourself if there will be any financial compromises, such as failure to pay the mortgage, when you accept another job or pursue another career which might pay considerably lower than your current job.

Another thing you can do is to list down your concerns and see if you will be able to address them through other means. Finally, talk it out with a trusted friend who will be there for you no matter what. Finding someone who will be able to verbally help you as well as listen to you will be great support in the long run.


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